Posted by admin at September 30th, 2007

Seems that those days of going to friends’ memorial services as a social activity are long gone now. However, I am often reminded that those gentle spirits, albeit my personal memories, are still lingering in my mind. Sometimes a small inocuous thing like a tuxedo lapel pin or a song can trigger the haunting of those wonderful ghosts. I like it when they come to visit.

Coming out during the early 90′s, a guy like me was placed smack dab in the middle of the AIDS crisis. Everyone in the gay ghetto was running scared. Did he have it? Does he have it? What’s that blemish on my chin? I remember at the height of the scare, I attended 5 memorial services in one week and made 3 hospital visits. It was a horrible time. However, I found strength and solice in that group of guys that has become my second family and part time job (right LD?), The San Diego Men’s Chorus.

Fast forward to today. I walked in my 11th SD AIDS Walk today. Lawyer Dude joined me for a nice stroll in Balboa Park. Joy Galloway, our chorus cheerleader and den mother, once again reminded me of those guys…. Terry Amos (my 2nd tenor section leader and turtle collector- I have one of his turtles on my dresser), Jim Velberg, Keith Lasley, Phil Heyde, Merle Johnson (of “I Will Be Your Brother” fame), Vincent Herrera, Ricky Myers, Jack Weaver, Bob Prewitt, Jeffrey Bays, Wayne Barnes…the list can go on. All dear friends and lingering in my collective memory.

I thought of them today — all the fun we had going out together, singing with the SDMC at gigs, crying for others, the endless volleyball games in the park, and just being with a group of guys that I respected and loved. I miss them.

And with that, I keep walking. Joy held the sign today. I won’t forget.

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Posted by admin at September 29th, 2007

Lawyer dude and I did our patriotic duty and went shopping today. Why you say? Because we had a coupon.

The SD Men’s Chorus participated in a fundraiser in which we sold 20% off coupons to Macy’s for $10. Our tribe came out in full force today. Calvin Klein was 25% off today plus the 20% and we were in shopping hog heaven.

On the list of objet trouve…4 pairs of Calvin’s famous undies, 4 shirts, 2 pairs of pants, 1 omlette pan and patridge in a pear tree.

We’re good gays.

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Posted by admin at September 12th, 2007

Seems simple, doesn’t it?  Five little letters that changed a little girls life and taught the world that everyone is capable of doing great things.  Sometimes I feel like Annie Sullivan.    Uncooperative forces bearing down on my ability and training, telling me what I can and cannot do.  However, like the moment at the well, those five simple letters opened a whole new world for Helen Keller.  Is the process exhausting?  Are the roadblocks paralizing?  Yes and Yes.  Do I come back for more?  When the key is handed back to me, the answer is also in the positive.  Yes (nods).

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It’s Hot Up Here….

Posted by admin at September 2nd, 2007

“It’s hot up here.  It’s hot and it’s monotonous.” — Sunday In The Park With George by Stephen Sondheim

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