Ralph…

Posted by admin at June 20th, 2010

I wrote this in June 1998 about three weeks after dad died.  It was copied from a virtual memorial site. 

Rafael V.  Arnayro, Jr.
4 Nov 1931-1 Jun 1998

Early in the morning on June 1, 1998, I was part of a spiritual, powerful and touching event. I, with great love and compassion, assisted my father with his life transition. He is now in a better place. No, I didn’t pull any plugs or inject any needles. I whispered in his ear that everything was going to be OK. And with a single breath, dad was no longer in pain and his suffering was over. I will never forget this event. I helped the man who gave me life transition into the light. Dad was a very loving and compassionate man. He was remembered by all of his friends as someone who was always there to lend a helping hand. I will remember him in the same manner. He always made sure that his wife and kids were taken care of, that all provisions were made for our welfare. He laughed with us, he cried with us, he saw us through our triumphs but also provided strength when life got tough. I’m still pissed off at cancer. I wish it would just leave the earth. It was difficult to watch a strapping man, 5’10″, 170 lbs. lose almost half his body weight and mass. I am grateful to my mom, my brother and sister, all the in-laws and my nieces and nephew for pulling through this very difficult time. We were an awesome group and I would be happy to hire all of you as executives. When things needed to be done, when documents and policies needed to be reviewed, when care needed to be given, when time was a precious commodity, we gave and gave and gave. My personal experience has found that the death of a loved one can bring out the worst in people. Not so with the my family. We are a stunning team. For this I am also grateful. I miss my dad and find myself dreaming about being with him in rather mundane settings. I want to tell him that the Padres are doing well, that my nephew finished middle school and that my nieces are driving now. But I can’t. Maybe these dreams allow my indulgence. In closing, I encourage all who read this to take the time to get to know your parents. You’ll discover things about yourself in the process. Good night, pop! Yeah, I’ll make sure all  the lights are off.
Your son, Randy

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Aloha and Mahalo

Posted by admin at June 19th, 2010

Chuck and I returned early this morning from a great Hawaiian vacation.  Kona, HI and the Big Island of Hawaii was the perfect place to unwind from intense school year,  celebrate a big birthday, and to remember our anniversary.  It was perfect all around. 

The King Kamehameha Beach Hotel was great.  They just upgraded the property and although they are still working on details, the rooms and the grounds were perfect.  It was right next to the municipal pier and right along the seawall and Alii Road.  It is also the beginning and ending of the Iron Man swim which was really cool as well.   The hotel grounds had it’s own little beach and truly was so beautiful to awaken to every morning.    The palm trees, the bay, the beach…what more could you ask for?

The flight over and back was totally cramped.  Delta needs to update their aircraft.  This plane was almost 20 years old and was showing its wear.  The seat backs and tray tables didn’t work and the monitors were CRT monitors.  Chuck had a tought time staying comfortable.  So we need to work this out the next time we go.

I don’t think there is a lot I can say.  Kailua Kona has such a relaxed atmosphere and we were in that “groove” really fast.  There were beaches to explore, trolleys to take is here and there and people that are so friendly and full of “Aloha Spirit”.  

The one thing I marveled at was the kids of Kailua Kona.  They have a love and respect for themselves, others and their environment.  It is so palpable especially when you see the large groups of kids playing at the beach.  There were no lifeguards on duty at 90% of the beaches we saw.  The kids were always in groups, always watching out for each other and always having a great time in the water.  They are fearless of the ocean.  There were no “moms” hovering about making play dates and scehduling activities.  It was a beautiful thing to see.

The weather was great but there was always a light rain in the afternoon and it would all go away after that. 

Yesterday Chuck and I went paddleboarding.  It was great to get out on the bay and experience the ocean.  It was so incredibly blue that you could see down twenty feet.  Paddleboarding is a trip.  I did stand up on my board but once I got out to open ocean it tough to stay up because of the choppy conditions.  Still, Chuck and I were out there enjoying all that Hawaii had to offer including it’s beautiful, blue ocean.

Vacations are for relaxing and slowing down the pace of life.  We had the option of renting a car, but didn’t follow through.  It was a good thing we didn’t because walking to and from Kailua Village was so exciting.  The act of walking seems to slow the pace down and with the comfortable sandals, it was even more fun.

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