Posted by admin at June 20th, 2010

I wrote this in June 1998 about three weeks after dad died.  It was copied from a virtual memorial site. 

Rafael V.  Arnayro, Jr.
4 Nov 1931-1 Jun 1998

Early in the morning on June 1, 1998, I was part of a spiritual, powerful and touching event. I, with great love and compassion, assisted my father with his life transition. He is now in a better place. No, I didn’t pull any plugs or inject any needles. I whispered in his ear that everything was going to be OK. And with a single breath, dad was no longer in pain and his suffering was over. I will never forget this event. I helped the man who gave me life transition into the light. Dad was a very loving and compassionate man. He was remembered by all of his friends as someone who was always there to lend a helping hand. I will remember him in the same manner. He always made sure that his wife and kids were taken care of, that all provisions were made for our welfare. He laughed with us, he cried with us, he saw us through our triumphs but also provided strength when life got tough. I’m still pissed off at cancer. I wish it would just leave the earth. It was difficult to watch a strapping man, 5’10″, 170 lbs. lose almost half his body weight and mass. I am grateful to my mom, my brother and sister, all the in-laws and my nieces and nephew for pulling through this very difficult time. We were an awesome group and I would be happy to hire all of you as executives. When things needed to be done, when documents and policies needed to be reviewed, when care needed to be given, when time was a precious commodity, we gave and gave and gave. My personal experience has found that the death of a loved one can bring out the worst in people. Not so with the my family. We are a stunning team. For this I am also grateful. I miss my dad and find myself dreaming about being with him in rather mundane settings. I want to tell him that the Padres are doing well, that my nephew finished middle school and that my nieces are driving now. But I can’t. Maybe these dreams allow my indulgence. In closing, I encourage all who read this to take the time to get to know your parents. You’ll discover things about yourself in the process. Good night, pop! Yeah, I’ll make sure all  the lights are off.
Your son, Randy